*** Golden Chopsticks coffee shop ***
10.50 am - my omelette, okra and mixed stir fry of red capsicum, mushrooms, broccoli MYR 11 nett from Golden Chopsticks coffee shop chapfan stall.
Yesterday morning: 44.1
Yesterday:
Omad completed at 9 am
This morning: 44.1
No change.
I ate brunch at 10.50 am today so it means that I water fast from 9 am yesterday to 10.50 am today which is 25 hours 50 minutes. Wasn't that hungry this morning but yesterday night at about 7 pm was hungry but was ok, once can get through the hunger pangs by drinking water.
After brunch and dinner, the next morning: 44.35
*** Just Do Own Best ***
This morning at about 8.30 am, he checked on the Elderlies remotely and saw them happily enjoying:
1. Put chye kor, little cup kuih, one portion each
2. Fried items - ham chim peng and etc
Then at 9 am, the Elderlies carefully clear away the unwanted items and went out to discard the evidence into the community big thrash bin. The remaining fried items, the Elderlies took into the bedroom.
At 11.36 am, when he send them their lunch, he took the blood sugar reading and sure enough, after about 2.5 hours and even after eating metformin before their feast, the reading is 14.2 mmol/L.
He just gently reminded the elderly that having high blood sugar will slow down a lot the recovery of the wounds and the elderly remains poker face. I remembered myself when I was young, being scolded by the teacher and I put on a poker face and then I didn't do anything the teacher said so I guess it is the same with the Elderlies.
Since they don't seem to care about their own health, he still says that he must do his best for them. What can I say. Filial Piety is inborn or taught? Nature or nurture?
My thoughts:
Scenario:
self sufficient living in bliss for Elderlies not wanting to be controlled by children:
1. Hire nurses full time 24x7 with own 💰
2. Eat whatever and whenever to own hearts desire
3. Ask doctor to prescribe insulin so nurses can inject and do tests to know how much insulin to inject
4. In a short while will be bedridden so continue eating to hearts content and nurses will change diapers full of 💩
5. Whenever not feeling well, nurses team will call their own driver n car to send to ER and nurses can take care and accompany in ER full time
6. Groundhog Day over and over from item. 1 to 5 until
A. 💰 Runs out
B. Heart stops
When A, all children pool funds and send to the most affordable care home willing to accept.
The method for a happy blissful carpe diem life not under the control of children.
*** Clear Food ***
This is one day that I cannot have omad because I need to clear food from the fridge. He drank all the Cordyceps Flower Soup so I need to eat all the remaining edible herbs.
1. Remaining edible herbs from Cordyceps Flower Soup
2. 3 slices of wholemeal bread.
3. Half avocado from his breakfast
4. One braised egg MYR 1.5 from 126 Kopitiam chapfan stall
5. Blueberries
You may wish to call for nursing visits for 1-2 hours daily to clean wound, inject insulin, bathing and general nursing care. Its not that expensive
ReplyDeleteIt is not my decision as it has been pointed out to me that I am not the children and therefore has no say.
DeleteCan you refer any nurses? I can suggest to the children cos the children are afraid their elderlies get abused.
DeleteThey are qualified nurses. My friend used their services for daily injections at home instead of hospital stay.This is their website. www.nursesathome.my
DeleteThank you for the url. Will let the children know about this website for them to consider and decide.
DeleteYour husband is a good son, taking care of them each day... when I need my kids one day, I hope they will buy food for me every day too!
ReplyDeleteNot just buy food daily but clean wounds and change dressings daily and do everything carers need to do. Kid 1 helps to bath the elderly too and helps with going to toilet big and small businesses. These things better to be done by loved ones rather than paid strangers.
DeleteOld people are like that. Behave like small kids but we can't do much as they are elders. Hope you find a solution fit and everyone is happy with it.
ReplyDeleteThere is no solution as health is up to own self to take care. Once both are bed ridden due to frequently having too high blood sugar in blood then they won't be able to go buy sugary and carby food anymore. The children are doing their best to prevent the Elderlies from being bed ridden by keeping their blood sugar stable in acceptable range and encouraging them to do mild exercises. It is much easier to just let them eat what they like and then hire strangers to take care when they are bedridden.
DeleteI think it is both nurture and nature. If the child has a good relationship with the parents and if taught good morals and values, then the child would grow up with love and a sense of responsibility towards the parents. Even if the relationship is not good, if the child by nature has a moral compass (responsible) with good moral influence then it is still possible for the child to take care of the parents out of a sense of responsibility.
ReplyDeleteIt is unfortunate that some elders are ignorant or indifferent to the consequences of their actions which will cause their health to deteriorate. They take for granted that their children will take care of them and may not realize the stress that their children go through. I agree with your spouse that in spite of that, we have to do our best for our parents. It is what it is, no choice.
In this case, the children themselves have moral compass because the relationship is not that close.
DeleteIt's a hard decision. There must still be enough pleasures in life for it to be worth living. And there is an obvious cost if too much pleasures are taken.
ReplyDeleteEating healthy food is also very nice lah.
DeleteCost at other people expenses is not right.
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